REPOSTING MY BLOG: "...i do"

May 25th, 2007 by jeorav

"till i found you… looking through the eyes of love" — a wedding song

i find it annoying when people attending weddings during the conversations before the food is served will ask you questions when you plan to marry. annoying because they seemed to subconsciously (a) pressure you to follow and invite them afterwards and (b) curtail your right to singlehood.

attending weddings should be fun. imagine seeing two people swear before the divine that they will be one from the day forth till the end of their lives (or the other’s). fun because you will see different emotions surrounding the ceremony itself. the mother crying (applicable to both wife and groom), the father proud, the bridesmaid conscious (because her gown didnt fit her well after not dieting from the day she was measured), the groomsmen sleepy and drunk (after last night’s stag party) and the uzi’s excited to know if the influential and the famous will attend (later to be disappointed because what they see are all proxies).

then the reception. cakes, wine, doves and countless kisses by the newly weds everytime the audience requested. and you are so drawn to their happiness only to get shattered by:

"hijo/hija, hindi ba mas bata pa sa yo si (name of ikinasal), bakit ikaw hindi pa nagaasawa?"

doink! you will realize that you are now caught in an embarassing situation. if you are witty enough, you can just tell them "errr, hindi po ba pumunta tayo dito to celebrate the wedding of (couple’s name). mukha pong hindi kasama sa program yung pakikialam nyo sa buhay ng may buhay". smile then proceed to the table of your "co-singles". Or just let them be (as we will always do). alam naman natin na its not worth it to argue with someone na nagpunta sa wedding na nagregalo ng stand fan (na free lang pag bumili ka ng orocan or napanalunan sa roleta sa perya).

imagine going to the wedding prepared and excited (you even prepared a dress wearing a prada tag marked P180 sa malapit na uk shop) and leave the party irritated and insecure. no wonder kumokonti yung mga guest sa kasalan. sayang naghanda pa naman sila ng mga food na minsan mo lang natikman — menudo (argh!), chopsuey, pancit at leche flan. dagdagan pa ng all time favorites na ube at buco pandan. sana lang ikaw yung nakakuha ng flower bouquet, pero dahil sa conscious kang hindi makakapaguwi ng bilao na pinabalot sa makulay na palara at yung giveaway na "angel" (syet, pandagdag mo na naman sa collection mo) hindi mo sinalo. ayun, naunahan ka tuloy nung abay na napagkamalan mong ninang dahil sa itsura! hehehe

but the point there is, people expect singles to come to their house and give them invitations for another wedding.

hopefully, ikaw na yung susunod. pero kung ikaw man, atleast you know that someone in the crowd that youve invited felt annoyed and irritated. at kilala mo na yung culprit. kung sino yung nagbigay ng stand fan. goodluck sa kanya!

so, who will invite me to another "i do" ceremony? sukob kaya? abangan!

REVISITING OLD BLOG: Not a virgin anymore

July 16th, 2006 by jeorav

well, i have in mind ingredients to make it an interesting one — sex, drugs and violence. But because i was raised nearly as a priest (lol, my father will laugh when he reads this) i will set these aside except for exceptional circumstances and graphic description.

but what makes a blog a "good blog"?

will i discuss the way i see funny things in people? nah, i have yet to receive my mr.congeniality award (pending that i will behave, or at least try to). will i spill thoughts from observing people? duh! refer to the previous reason.

hmmm what makes a blog a "good blog"?

when the discussion lead me to my negative comments with the present or future political condition (imperyalismo ibagsak!), would that be interesting? nah, people may opt to watch news or commentaries. when the discussion tackles the church and the rival religions that can be seen 24 hours claiming the other is misinterpreting the verses of the catholic holy book, would that be worth the reading? the answer is obvious, i just wanted to affirm my curiosity.

so, when is a blog a "good blog"?

a blog would result to a review if i share my insights about a movie, or a book, or a play or a favorite restaurant. it would be an advice column if i pry into another’s privacy (well, i enjoy it and others wouldnt suspect) and lead them to realization (or the light perhaps?. it would cost you consultation fee if it comes to matters of my profession (i have one!)

And the witchhunters will burn me on a stake if i will be magickal or "new-agey".

Who determines a blog as a "good blog"?

definitely not english majors! they find it enjoyable to see to it that what you have written conforms to the S-LV-O or its variation. not philosophers because they will tell you it doesnt fit the realm of the philosophical. not theologians because topics and discussions may send you to hell or 50 years in purgatory (better prepare those indulegencia plenaria!). Not scientists because they don't have time reading mushiness or rants when they have to discover something for the further advancement of science.

how to start a blog as "good blog"?

hmmm, this is quite difficult. its easier to say that one’s blog is not a good blog than to say a blog is a good one. Maybe it has something to do with sentence construction? high-faluting words and figurative speeches? or it has something to do with topics that appeal to everyone? Hmm difficult indeed.

but hey! i created my first blog!!! after years of attempting, after going over notes and thoughtless insights (journals, pieces of papers, parchment from a magickal book), i finally created my first blog! and the good news, it has nothing to do with what i originally planned to write about.

so, is my blog a "good blog"?

honestly, i dont care. ;) i have my blog now. notice the word "MY" (emphasis supplied). but the great thing there is, i am a personification of Divine Providence. I love to share what has given to me or what i intellectually create (is this covered by intellectual property law?)

the rule is, you can look, but you can not touch

(thanks to the goddess for the inspiration.)

blessed be!

batsilyer on people management

I do not intend to preach about how to handle people for i believe that there are different leadership and supervisory style applicable to different groups of different people. this article if about MY style in dealing with groupmates.

today, i learned new things about management:

a. work "smart hours" than "long hours" which basically means if you are left in the office every night cramming because of deadlines, you should reconsider your "style"

b. team management is not about how to deal with what team you have, it is more of how the team will grow (literally and figuratively)

c. the team is not the ONLY concern in management because even supervisors, managers and process owners are PART of the TEAM!!!! every member of a team is important thus all their needs (as long as it is employment-related) must be addressed.

i admit i have lots to learn and know that learning will not be completed in the near future. right now, i admit that i am enjoying the "work" because i do not have people working for me or under me but working with me.

Really, that's one fun job!!!

BATSILYER loves to travel!!!

I always thought that travelling is a luxury for those who have lots of cash and lots of time to visit other places, enjoy local delicacies and meet friends and acquaintances. Now, with available low fare rates and the affordable accommodation, the joy of "backpacking" or weekend retreat can be experienced by those who have little savings and less leave credits. Travelling (at least locally) is not a luxury anymore. It is a means to recharge from the strenuous and stressful corporate environment and let the body and soul be soothed with relaxation.

I will personally share places i visited and if time and memory allow, then even the budget and tips. Everyone is free to add with their own "bachelor's information" and reviews of places, local dining sites and of course, good and affordable buys. Local hang-outs to meet friends and new souls are appreciated (we refrain from naming them to add to the mystery any local destination can offer).

I have the opportunity to travel every month this year and will soon post the destination (or origin? i think will depend if going to or fro) one at a time. Past travels with friends and family will also be revisited. If there will be experience-sharing bordering on too personal items, feel free to call my attention :)

Thats it!!! Batsilyer loves to travel and will have you all in the next travel destinations!!!