DILEMMA ... a repost

August 8th, 2008 by jeorav
“to be or not to be, that is the
question!” – William Shakespeare

Almost everyday, the Universe poses options with different objectives — to measure our limits and/or
strengths, to present a lesson worth learning and to exercise judgment by weighing circumstances and considerations. When we see options in form of challenges, we step back and assess before moving to take it. When both options are favorable, we call it “JACKPOT”! Otherwise, we call it “bakit nasuot ako sa kaguluhang ito”. When after considerations the options pose intricate and web-weaving effects, we
call it dilemma.

Is dilemma spelled with double L or with a letter N? Chicken or beef? Will I opt to be excellent in academics or extra-curricular activities? I like to be a doctor but I like to be a lawyer. Will it be a condo or a car that I will spend five years for monthly amortization? Dun ba ako sa sexy or dun sa smart looking? Will it be the one who loves you but you fell not loving, or the one you love pero “so-so” lang ang effect ng ganda mo?

Minsan iniisip ko na sana may slot machine na pwede mong hulugan ng coins at may sasagot na sa dilemma mo. Magandang isipin but it cannot happen everytime. The US cannot be at peace with Iraq while bombing its citizens. China cannot (well not yet) protect itself and its culture (and its stand to certain issues) on the other hand and have a free trade with the world. Taxi drivers cannot have the benefit of lowering oil prices and start their meters at Php60.00.

Whether it be options both worth trying or a double-edged sword, dilemmas are part of growth, of experience and of living. We may not be King Solomon when dealing with them, but wisdom is the language of the soul. If pumalpak ka sa options mo, atleast there is a soul na pwede mong sisihin! Ang dilemma nga lang, sasakalin mo ba ang soul mo para mawala na sa existence, o papatawarin mo at haharap ka na naman sa panibagong dilemma?

REPOSTING MY BLOG: "...i do"

May 25th, 2007 by jeorav

"till i found you… looking through the eyes of love" — a wedding song

i find it annoying when people attending weddings during the conversations before the food is served will ask you questions when you plan to marry. annoying because they seemed to subconsciously (a) pressure you to follow and invite them afterwards and (b) curtail your right to singlehood.

attending weddings should be fun. imagine seeing two people swear before the divine that they will be one from the day forth till the end of their lives (or the other’s). fun because you will see different emotions surrounding the ceremony itself. the mother crying (applicable to both wife and groom), the father proud, the bridesmaid conscious (because her gown didnt fit her well after not dieting from the day she was measured), the groomsmen sleepy and drunk (after last night’s stag party) and the uzi’s excited to know if the influential and the famous will attend (later to be disappointed because what they see are all proxies).

then the reception. cakes, wine, doves and countless kisses by the newly weds everytime the audience requested. and you are so drawn to their happiness only to get shattered by:

"hijo/hija, hindi ba mas bata pa sa yo si (name of ikinasal), bakit ikaw hindi pa nagaasawa?"

doink! you will realize that you are now caught in an embarassing situation. if you are witty enough, you can just tell them "errr, hindi po ba pumunta tayo dito to celebrate the wedding of (couple’s name). mukha pong hindi kasama sa program yung pakikialam nyo sa buhay ng may buhay". smile then proceed to the table of your "co-singles". Or just let them be (as we will always do). alam naman natin na its not worth it to argue with someone na nagpunta sa wedding na nagregalo ng stand fan (na free lang pag bumili ka ng orocan or napanalunan sa roleta sa perya).

imagine going to the wedding prepared and excited (you even prepared a dress wearing a prada tag marked P180 sa malapit na uk shop) and leave the party irritated and insecure. no wonder kumokonti yung mga guest sa kasalan. sayang naghanda pa naman sila ng mga food na minsan mo lang natikman — menudo (argh!), chopsuey, pancit at leche flan. dagdagan pa ng all time favorites na ube at buco pandan. sana lang ikaw yung nakakuha ng flower bouquet, pero dahil sa conscious kang hindi makakapaguwi ng bilao na pinabalot sa makulay na palara at yung giveaway na "angel" (syet, pandagdag mo na naman sa collection mo) hindi mo sinalo. ayun, naunahan ka tuloy nung abay na napagkamalan mong ninang dahil sa itsura! hehehe

but the point there is, people expect singles to come to their house and give them invitations for another wedding.

hopefully, ikaw na yung susunod. pero kung ikaw man, atleast you know that someone in the crowd that youve invited felt annoyed and irritated. at kilala mo na yung culprit. kung sino yung nagbigay ng stand fan. goodluck sa kanya!

so, who will invite me to another "i do" ceremony? sukob kaya? abangan!

batsilyer on people management

I do not intend to preach about how to handle people for i believe that there are different leadership and supervisory style applicable to different groups of different people. this article if about MY style in dealing with groupmates.

today, i learned new things about management:

a. work "smart hours" than "long hours" which basically means if you are left in the office every night cramming because of deadlines, you should reconsider your "style"

b. team management is not about how to deal with what team you have, it is more of how the team will grow (literally and figuratively)

c. the team is not the ONLY concern in management because even supervisors, managers and process owners are PART of the TEAM!!!! every member of a team is important thus all their needs (as long as it is employment-related) must be addressed.

i admit i have lots to learn and know that learning will not be completed in the near future. right now, i admit that i am enjoying the "work" because i do not have people working for me or under me but working with me.

Really, that's one fun job!!!