The PRINCE

May 25th, 2007 by jeorav

"someday my prince will come…" (snow white and the seven dwarves)

many a times i come to cross lives with single women— some professionals, others intellectual, and even beautiful ladies. Well, not to mention those who seemed to enjoy the single blessedness without the above-mentioned adjectives. But after long conversations and curious prying with the privacy of their "lovelives" (others, none at all) there seemed to be a common hypothesis. "The right man will come at the right time, at the right place".

okay. reality check. we were made to believe that there is a person somewhere that holds the other half of well, "us". that is why the song "got to believe in magic" triumphantly claims "tell me how to people find each other in a world thats full of strangers" and concludes "its magic when two people fall in love". well, it may be true or not. but dont you think its unfair for the other half of those monks and priests who opted to be living alone (theoretically, not practically)?

next point (wow, parang debate). why will you wait for someone without you doing your own searching? hindi kaya mapagod kakahanap yung iniintay mo and end up marrying or being with someone na unang kumupkop sa kanya nung nahilo na sya sa pagod kakahanap sa yo? that is why i admire ladies who are open in saying "naghahanap ako ng boyfriend" (or mapapangasawa in the provincial parlance) and doing her best to the realization of what she is searching for.

imagine if you are working at the 48th floor (ok, insert floor number higher than 20) of a tower at Makati City waiting for your prince. everyday you waited that he will enter the office and then cupid will do his stuff. after years and years of waiting, no prince arrived. you will now be discouraged to the point that you will not trust love anymore (oa? i dont think so). many women believed that their princes will come one day, or the next, or the next. it will be easier though if you have the hair of rapunzel, for the prince to see and say "let down your hair". but historically, no hair have grown that long. and even if for argument’s sake it happened, you can never tell if the person riding your hair is your prince "charming".

and so it continues. better shatter your love perspective. "there is no factory of princes charming". your prince may be hidden beneath a frog, a shrek, the beast. the point is, he is not a prince. better leave that title behind with your fairy tales and barbi dolls. now, you will see that your other half might not be galant, not charming, not brave and noble (lady es would surely not omit the following — handsome, tall in every inch of HIS body and if he has money, the better). what is important is that you take down your standards and see what the universe has instore for you.

in making love charms and potions, i always tell others, do not wish for love when you are not prepared. a prince (or anyone) who will come seek a person prepared to enter and be "whole" in a relationship. a good-looking partner (you wish) is not good enough. preparing mentally, emotionally and spiritually is essential. do not be selfish! do you think the Ultimate Force will give you someone when you will just screw everything up because you are not prepared?

finally. do not wait for prince charming to come. instead of "sour graping" over your friend’s boytoy, or ranting with your poor "love journal" (eh papano kung wala kang love life, eh di journal na lang?), GO OUT AND FIND HIM! the holy book said "seek and ye shall find". the authors are under divine inspiration while writing these verses right? im sure papa jisas will not like them lying, hehehe.

who knows, he may be the standing next to you. then you should not wait anymore.